If you are new to love and you want to know how to romance a woman, read the following advice for kindling passion in your love affair. Romance is about making a woman realize the emotion and sentiment you have for her, hopefully producing in her the warm feelings and passions that make love so wonderful. Tokens of affections and sentimental gestures are just two of the weapons in your romantic arsenal, and so much of romance is about getting the timing right. When you have just the right romantic move at just the right time, love is magical. If your timing is off, the wheels can shoot off quickly. So read these romance tips and get your romantic timing down.
Love and Romance
Before we start, understand that romancing a woman is only going to work if you have a shot. If a woman doesn’t find you attractive, no romantic gesture and no amount of attention is going to change her mind. That’s rule #1 about romantic timing: it’s never a good time if she isn’t into you.
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship or you are trying to romance a girl who does have affection for you and attraction to you, then you’ll often find your romantic moves are deceptively easy. Once again, get the time and place right and it’s going to be hard to mess up the romance. Your average woman has a healthy streak of romance in her, and when her no-nonsense man suddenly shows he wants to be romantic, they are usually going to respond in kind. Their surprise is going to bestow the smallest gesture with the deepest meaning.
When romancing a woman, surprising her with the romantic moments is key. It’s good when a women can’t predict your next action. It’s said women like bad boys, but that’s only because they can’t predict what a bad boy is going to do next. This creates a sense of anticipation. You don’t have to be a bad guy to create a sense of anticipation in a woman–all you have to do is surprise her in good way.
The moment a woman has you entirely figured out, she might start to get bored with you. So keep a few aces up your sleeve and surprise her with the random romantic move when she least expects it.
Time the Romance
Everything is a matter of timing. A romantic note about how you feel may not be appropriate when she’s preoccupied with personal problems, relationship issues or family issues. A big kiss might be out of place in a crowded room, if it’s early in the relationship or she doesn’t like displays of public affection. You have to pick your shots and make them count, because an ill-timed romantic move is going to be worse than no move at all.
Compliment a Woman
Don’t be afraid to compliment a woman. Like anyone else, a woman likes to be complimented, especially if it doesn’t happen often. Don’t get me wrong: this principle works for women prone to getting complicated, too. If you’re dating a woman who is drop-dead gorgeous and has baby blue eyes, she probably gets complicated on her blue eyes all the time. Find something else to compliment her about, something you expect she doesn’t receive as many compliments about. Make it sincere. Actually pick out something you admire her for. But if she’s a beautiful woman, a compliment about her brains or her wit is going to stand out more.
Compliments show affection and can’t hurt a woman’s self-esteem, so don’t be afraid to praise a woman. Don’t overdo it, though. You can give out so many compliments that you seem fawning, even desperate. You’ll find a law of diminishing returns, even a point where compliments work against you, if you give out too many. When she pauses, shrugs her shoulders, or rolls her eyes, that’s deadly to the romance. Sprinkle the compliments, but don’t pour.
Get the Basics Right
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel here. A candlelight dinner with a single rose and nice romantic music works just fine. Subtlety and understatement often work better than spending lots of money. Women love to have a man cook them a meal, provided you have any skills at cooking and your presentation is good. If not, take her to a romantic restaurant where the lighting is low and the scene is relaxing. Especially when you first start dating, keeping it simple is good.
Gifts in Their Time
Just like anyone else, women love gifts. Roses, candy, perfume, and jewelry are all romantic gifts. This is where timing becomes a big factor, though. You don’t want to introduce these too soon and in the wrong order. Jewelry is a pretty serious step, so be sure you don’t send the wrong message here. You might be putting undo pressure on her, so don’t give her a ring of any sort until you’ve been dating a while. A bracelet, a necklace, or ear rings are probably more appropriate, because they don’t carry with them the same symbolic meaning. In either case, these should only appear after you’ve been dating a while.
Start out with flowers or treats. When you buy her flowers, avoid three dozen red roses the first time you do it. If you do, this might make you look desperate to please. Even if it works, if you get her one dozen roses the next time, she’s going to be disappointed. Start out small and work yourself up to the big bouquet of red roses–probably after you’ve really messed up big. Also, fragrances are only going to work if you know she enjoys the perfume. If she doesn’t like a fragrance–and women have wildly different sets of body chemistry and personal tastes–then it’s not going to be much of a gift. So know before you give this kind of gift if it’s appropriate.
Don’t do this too soon. The first date is not the time to give her a gift, no matter how well-intentioned it is. It’s going to put a sense of expectation on her, and she won’t like that pressure. If you shower her with gifts early on, she might wonder why you’re so desperate for her approval.
Don’t Ignore Romance
Don’t ignore the romantic aspects of your relationship if you are dating a woman. You might not find them important, but you can bet she sure does. If you don’t do the romance thing very well, she’s going to notice the void and deduct points. She might find her a man who’s just as nice and just as handsome, but who brings a little romance into her life. Do not neglect this part of the relationship.
Don’t Spoil Her
I touched on this earlier, but I want to make it explicit. Do not spoil her with romance. Don’t inundate the relationship with meaningless romantic gestures. A constant stream of gifts and love notes and “I love you” texts is going to get old–and quick. These have to be spaced out enough to surprise her. She can’t come to expect them, or it becomes about as predictable as the man with no romantic bone in his body. She’ll notice a flood of romance, just as she notices the complete lack of it.
The key to romance is doing the unexpected. Don’t let her see it coming and you’ll have a magical moment. I said it before, but I’ll say it again–timing is everything in romance.